Stopped Having Sex Altogether

Most relationships go through phases where one or both partners have become not interested in sex. However, even without sex, there's no reason to think that the passion has gone forever. Once a pattern is established of having sex infrequently, or not at all, it can be hard to get back to a regular and satisfying love life but taking time to understand why you feel less like making love can hep you get your sex life back to how you want it.

Apart from simply getting bored with sex (sexual boredom), or losing the habit of making love, many practical factors can affect your feelings:

Illness
Stress
Over-tiredness
Children who wake in the night or wanting to sleep in your bed

If you can identify with any of these, you will need to tackle the root cause before you can work on improving your sex life.

Is sex the real problem or a result of other problems?

Counsellors often find that lack of sexual desire stems from a basic dissatisfaction within a couple's relationship. Common problems include:

drifting apart and losing touch
feeling taken for granted or neglected
frequent arguments, nagging
problems such as money worries, family conflict, work-related stress affairs
Children at home

Problems like these need working through, since only when you feel better about your relationship is there a chance of your sex life improving. Try talking with your partner about how to make things better. Relationship counselling can be very helpful if your problems seem too daunting to tackle alone.